It's inevitable. You're talking to your friends and one of you mentions something that your kid did. And the talk moves on to where each kid was developmentally at different ages. One mom might say - By age 3, my daughter was reading and starting to write. Another might say her son was talking full sentences by 2 years. Another might say their child started talking at 8 months.
Recently, I was talking to one of my friends and she was telling me about her daughter. I listened to her and felt a sinking feeling in my stomach. Was my daughter where she should be? Am I failing her in some way by not teaching her more and spending more time with her?
Agirl doesn't know her colors or numbers or the alphabets yet. She's not expected to but a lot of Indian kids do know them by this age.
Logically, I know there's really no answer to this question. Kids will learn at their own pace. Her teachers have no concerns about her. I need to just provide the environment and the tools. Part of this is guilt at not being a stay-at-home mom.
All I can do at this point is make more of an effort to spend time with her and teach her.